IDENTITY CRISIS

I would like to share a real life incident. But before that I just want my readers to be aware of the fact that I got permission from the person associated with it before posting this in my Blog.

I came across a girl who was very charming, caring and God-fearing. In fact, I used to envy her because she was so talented and was loved by many. We became close and one day she told me about her past. She never seemed to be the type who would undergo depression.  She was physically abused when she was young. And it wasn't just once but on several occasions she was forced to have a physical relationship. This is what she told me : " Flora, back then, I just wanted to kill myself. I didn't know what was happening but all I felt was that guilt and disgust. I lost my trust in men and I felt like I had absolutely no reason to live. But I wasn't brave enough to kill myself either. People only valued me for what I had. Am I worthless? Am I unlovable? Am I not pretty enough? Is this all I deserve?."

On hearing this, tears rolled down and I couldn't reply to her immediately. I was trying to put myself in her place. What would I have done if I were her? I think I would have had such suicidal thoughts too.

After a few days, I spoke to her and this is what I told her :

" What makes you think that you are worthless? Did you know that God designed every detail of YOU with perfection? God loves you so much and HE wants you to share your story and give hope to other young women who are facing the same situation today. You went through this for a reason and it will be used for HIS glory. Don't ever look down on yourself because God didn't give up on you. You always had God by your side, but...you never needed God and you lived your life that way. It's not too late to let Him heal your past."

For her, it was child abuse. She thought that she had lost her identity because of what happened to her. There are times when we are forced to doubt our Identity. We rely on people's validation. 'What will they say?', 'Will they applaud if I do this?', 'What will they think of me?'...Have you ever had such thoughts?

It's just natural for us to think like this. Our IDENTITY comes from JESUS CHRIST. This world might give you different labels but that will not define who you are in Christ.